• 10 Ways to Help you Manage Your Depression | Managing Depression and Anxiety

    10 Things to Help you Manage your Depression

    When you’re having a bad day with depression or stuck in a bout of despair and do-nothingism, it’s difficult to have the mental clarity or energy to help yourself.  I was recently reminded of this yesterday when I let one unexpected event take me from tears to despondency.  In those moments of complete sadness, when you’re feeling defeated – that is not the time to fight your depression.  That is not a time you really want to fight your depression.  At least for me, I tend to wallow in my misery and let my mood spiral down into a sense of hopelessness.  I’ve realized that because this is the way…

  • Overcoming Negative Labels and Self-Criticism so you stop feeling like a bad person

    When You Feel Like a Bad Person

    Labels are everywhere in our lives nowadays.  We have labels on our clothes, labels on our furniture, even labels on our food.  They are there to inform, instruct or identify us.  We read labels to gain understanding.  We write labels to protect ourselves.  And we wear labels as status symbols to garner acceptance and praise from others.  Labels are everywhere in our lives nowadays. But besides the labels we are wearing and reading, there are labels we are also creating everyday.  Labels that we use to identify ourselves.  Labels that we allow circumstances or our feelings to create for us.  The labels of “not good enough”, “not rich enough”, “not…

  • Feeling Unlovable? The Three Words God has for You
    Faith,  Joyful Living

    Feeling Unlovable? The Three Words God Has for You

    The minute the preacher said, “Open your Bibles to the book of Romans”, I regretted not bringing my coffee into church.  It’s a tough decision most Sunday mornings – whether to risk falling asleep or risk having to pee in the middle of church.  This particular Sunday morning I thought I’d be ok without that last cup of coffee.  I thought I could stay awake and actually focus on  spiritual matters instead of how many more minutes were left in the sermon.  I didn’t think I’d be listening to a boring, dry sermon from Romans in a dimly lit church whose thermostat is set to freezing thus creating the optimal…

  • Trusting God in Difficult Times
    Faith,  Joyful Living

    Trusting God is Good When All You See is Pain

    On my best days, its hard for me to believe that God is really good.  I admit it – it’s hard to trust God in difficult times.  Its like I’m stuck between believing what the Bible says – that God is good – and feeling what circumstances in my life tell me – that He isn’t.  Sometimes, it even seems that God is good – to other people and just not to me.  I see Him bless others.  I see Him provide healing for others.  I see Him work on behalf of others.  And I wonder, “Why not me, God?  Why won’t you do for me?” As a Designer, I…

  • Where's My Happy Ending | Depression and God | Life, Faith, and Pain
    Faith,  Joyful Living

    Where’s My Happy Ending? Truths about God, Life, and Pain

    We all love a happy ending.  We love the sweet stories of reconciliation in a family, the birth of a child after infertility, or the success of someone who deserved it.  We want to hope for good things to happen to others because that means good things will happen to us.  Right?  Wrong.  The truth is that our culture is great about proliferating media with happy endings – the lost dog gets found, the surgery goes successfully, the guy gets the girl and they live happily ever after.  But these are just a few, select stories, they aren’t every story.  For every story out there with a happy ending, there…

  • Kintsugi Art | Broken Pottery Repair | Feeling Broken in Life
    Faith,  Joyful Living

    Kintsugi: The Art of Brokenness

    Undesirable, unworthy, ugly, broken, flawed, imperfect – these are all words that flash through my mind on a regular basis.  These are the words that my depression has taught me to think about myself.  These are the words that keep me feeling broken beyond repair.  These are the words that I constantly fight to keep myself from drowning in despair.  These are the words that tempt me to take my own life. You see, in our society, its common to throw out the broken.  We get rid of the dilapidated, the worn, the flawed, the imperfect.  So its only natural (in my crazy mind) that when my view of myself…

  • Created with Purpose | Reimagining Your Broken Pieces | God and Faith

    The Artist Who Wants to Reimagine Your Brokenness

    I’m an artist.  Its in my nature to create, whether that’s a painting, room design, or a do-it-yourself project.  I like to make, create, or find beauty in the world around me.  But whenever I design or create something, I almost always have a purpose in mind.  If I want an art piece to hang on a wall, I might do a painting or enlarge a photograph.  If I need a coffee table or more storage, I’d probably build or makeover a furniture piece.  If I wanted to create a sculptural piece to look at, I’d create a sculptural piece to look at!  There’s always a purpose behind my projects,…

  • God and Faith | Vulnerability and Pain | Depression and Relationships

    Why It’s OK to Not Be OK

    For a long time in my mid-20s, I had that highschool-esque mentality where I thought I had to be like everyone else.  I had to “keep up with the jones-es” or “be like the popular kids”.  I had to have it all together on the inside and look put together on the outside.  Truth is, it was exhausting.  I spent my mornings testing out Instagram filters, my days working hard to earn enough money, my nights spending that money so I could look, act, and be like everyone else. While I was working so hard to look perfect on the outside, I was unraveling on the inside.  I was exhausted,…

  • God and Faith | Words that Define You | Depression and Purpose

    The Only Two Words You’ll Ever Need

    With technology continually changing, social media booming, and information overload, most of us are interacting less and less with those around us.  We meet people.  We become social media friends.  And then we never talk again.  I’m sure we can all relate to getting a message from someone we don’t remember or  even know who they are. The truth is that we’re friends with people we have never met in real life.  We are having conversations with and about people that are just a profile picture or a web page.  More and more our impressions and opinions of each other can be summed up in just a few words or…

  • Self-Care

    The Numbers on the Scale Don’t Define your Value

    You’re doing it again – letting the numbers on the scale define you, define your self-worth.  How many times are you going to let a few extra cookies, a pair of tight pants, or some excess jiggle in your thighs tell you that you’re not enough? You have to stop. Stop looking at yourself in the mirror and loathing your body. Stop measuring your self-worth by stepping on the scale. Stop metering what you can or cannot eat, do, be so others will like you.     Your value is not determined by what you weigh or what you eat or what you look like.  Your value was determined a…